One of the greatest struggles for me has been consistent and purposeful parenting.¬†Not parenting out of my emotions in the moment or not just come up with a temporary,¬†quick fix goes against I guess what I know and what comes so natural to me.
Remember how I said my husband was a good father a few days ago? Well, this is where my husband completes me. ūüôā He studied this in college and worked¬†with children in therapeutic foster care for 4 years at St. Anthony hospital before I even met¬†him, and for the last 9 years in private practice, he has helped many many couples in the parenting department. And besides the academics, he just really has a God-given ability to think so clearly¬†even in the throws of a toddler tantrum or in the heat of a fight between siblings. He thinks forward¬†and is able to not let his emotions get involved.
The Lord has done such a work in my life regarding parenting (although I still struggle a lot) that now I am feeling a desire to share from time to time what has¬†helped me. We approach our parenting from a Biblical perspective first and then we have used¬†other resources over the years, that I am compiling a list of and will hopefully share soon.
I did want to share this little video glimpse into how my husband dealt with an “issue” last night¬†with Hayden. The issue was Hayden not wanting to do his chores for the last couple of days and me¬†calling Shawn to cry to him at work because I was so frustrated. Last night I just sat back and admired. Please excuse the poor video quality and I wish I would have gotten the whole thing on video.
Basically, Shawn went through Hayden’s chore list and gave him a “solution” to every chore¬†that he no longer wanted to do. Genius.
FYI– Hayden’s chores are age appropriate. For example, he is required to do “laundry”¬†twice a week. This consists of him switching the clothes from the washer to the dryer and¬†then taking the clothes out of the dryer to the couch for me to fold. I promise you we are¬†not running a sweat shop. ūüôā